Understanding What Drives Your Wishes
Four Forces Behind Every Desire
Things you currently possess
Things you currently lack
Desire to have or keep
You WANT what you already HAVE
• Gratitude for relationships
• Protecting health
• Maintaining achievements
Action: Appreciate, maintain, grow what you have
You WANT what you DON'T HAVE
• New skills or knowledge
• Career advancement
• Personal growth
Action: Create, build, attract what you desire
Desire to avoid or remove
You DON'T WANT what you HAVE
• Bad habits
• Toxic relationships
• Limiting beliefs
Action: Release, let go, transform what doesn't serve you
You DON'T WANT what you DON'T HAVE
• Preventing illness
• Avoiding burnout
• Protecting boundaries
Action: Prevent, protect, stay vigilant
All four motivations can be at play simultaneously
Understanding your mix helps clarify conflicting desires
Approach motivation optimizes wishing (focus on what you want)
Most effective wishes: Focus on CULTIVATE (creating what you want) rather than AVOID (preventing what you don't want).
Your brain moves toward what you focus on—make it something positive!
"Understanding your motivation matrix helps you wish with clarity and power."